what else is new???? I LOVE this girl............
So she is almost 4 months old, and is at a really fun age! She spends most of the day awake and wants to play. She loves ALOT of attention and with 3 big brothers she definately gets it! She rolled over for the first time last week. (which is the earliest of my babies to roll) She is extremely active and can scoot herself around on the floor! Again this is very early compared to my boys (maybe girls really are smarter than boys)
She is a happy little girl and smiles all day long, she laughs pretty hard too when she gets tickled.
I am going broke with all the dresses I keep buying they are waaaay tooo many cute girl clothes!!
I am having too much fun! She is the star of the house and she knows it!
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
it's all about ava!
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
OURS!!!
Today was a BIG day for our family...........
I have been looking forward to this day from the moment she was born! And after a traumatic emotional rollarcoaster ride, it could not come sooner! Today we finalized Ava's adoption. We got to the court nice and early and waited outside the room until we were called in. Marianna and our friend Mayte came with us and it was very special to have them there.
The lawyer asked us a series of questions, which for the most part were answered with "yes". The final question was " do you take upon you the responsibilty to be the parents of this child?" I couldn't help but tear up as I answered "YES" (I wanted to shout it) I can't help but feel so honoured to have her. And so proud to be able to call her mine!
We are soo happy, relieved, grateful, delighted, HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY!
Happy adoption day to our little princess Ava Grace.... We LOVE you xxx p.s my teeth look wierd!
Friday, August 13, 2010
brody: mummy do you want one of my chips(crisps)??....me: no thanks, I just brushed my teeth.... brody: and if you eat one your teeth will turn brown again????
Friday, July 30, 2010
lovely poem
I saw a young mother
With eyes full of laughter
And two little shadows
Came following after.
Wherever she moved,
They were always right there
Holding onto her skirts,
Hanging onto her chair.
Before her, behind her-
An adhesive pair.
"Don't you ever get weary
As, day after day,
Your two little tagalongs
Get in your way?
She smiled as she shook
Her pretty young head,
And I'll always remember
The words that she said
"It's good to have shadows
That run when you run,
That laugh when you're happy
And hum when you hum -
For you only have shadows
When your life's filled with sun."
"We women have a lot to learn about simplifying our lives. We have to decide what is important and then move along at a pace that is comfortable for us.
We have to develop the maturity to stop trying to prove something. We have to learn to be content with what we are.
As you create a home, don’t get distracted with a lot of things that have no meaning for you or your family. Don’t dwell on your failures, but think about your successes.
Have joy in your home. Have joy in your children. Have joy in your husband. Be grateful for the journey."
-Marjorie P. Hinckley
Thursday, July 29, 2010
Brody Glen Pugmire.............
what can I say about this boy????
He is the mellowist person I have ever met!
He is a little teddy bear! He loves to cuddle!
His honesty can be brutal
He is funny
and silly
He LOVES chocolate!
He is handsome
and smart
and STRONG!
and GOOD
I LOVE him more than ANYTHING in the world!
Happy Birthday to my baby boy who is growing up way too fast! WE LOVE you!!!!
Friday, July 23, 2010
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
from Gods arms, to My arms, to Yours.....
LONG POST WARNING!!!
I was asked to write my adoption experence for an adoption newsletter, so I thought I would include it on my blog. (don't feel obliged to keep reading)
Mark and I were married quickly after a long distance courtship. I moved to Arizona after our Scottish wedding.
We wanted to have children right away but after months of disappointment and negative pregnancy tests, we knew something was wrong. We spoke to the doctor who referred us to a specialist. It was then that we discovered that it was going to be imposable for us to conceive naturally. Everywhere I looked there seemed to be pregnant ladies. And every conversation seemed to focus on labour stories and epidurals. I felt so lonely.
We threw ourselves into adoption. I was completely obsessed with getting paperwork done, making profiles, doing fingerprints, EVERYTHING that needed to be done. It was HARD work but my fuel was my desire to be a mother. It was the first thing I thought of when I woke up in the morning, and my last thought of the day.
On Aug 6th 2003 We raced to Iowa to meet our birthmother Sandra, We were nervous and excited all rolled into one, we went out for dinner and got to know each other. It was so exciting. The next day, We got the call. He was born! Our son. We raced to the hospital to meet him. We named him Jacob. We fell in love with him instantly. The hospital set us up in a little side room off of the nursery where (for the next 3 days) we stayed with our boy. We fed him, we changed him, we cradled him, we loved him, we sat in the rocking chair and planned our future with our new precious son.
Nothing could have prepared us for the news.... Sandra had changed her mind! She had decided that she did not want him to be placed for adoption. We were devastated beyond belief. We returned home to arizona with an empty car seat and a broken heart.
Three months later, We headed to Utah where we met Ann. We had planned to spend the day getting to know her, but the baby had other plans. She went into labor through the night and we got an early morning call and raced to the hospital. When we got there, she was in labor and invited us in to the room to witness the birth. We were honored. We sat in awe as we watched his amazing birth and then the doctor placed him in my arms. It was the best feeling in the world. We named him Kyle (a family name of the birthmother). I was very worried that history would repeat itself and that she might change her mind. But this was to be our child and we were able to take our boy home to arizona and raise him. Six months later we finalized the adoption, and a week later we were sealed to our son. It was one of the highlights of my life!
A year later we had a successful round of fertility treatments and I was able to carry a pregnancy and delivered a beautiful son we named Brody. Two years later with more fertility help we conceived and delivered our third son Owen. Life with three boys was busy but perfect. Life was full and happy beyond belief.
In February this year we learned of a situation that involved a friend of ours and her sweet sister Tia (from Puerto Rico). She came to stay with her sister here in Arizona to have the baby. Her plan was to place the baby for adoption so she could be sealed to a family. We were not looking to adopt at this time, as Owen was very young and also, we had found the fertility route was working well for us in our desire to grow our family. However I could not get this girl out of my mind. When I saw her at church I felt very drawn to her. One evening I felt very prompted to volunteer ourselves as a potential option Tia could consider. There are so many small details that are too sacred to share.
Very quickly we found ourselves "matched" with the birthmother. There was a special connection there that nobody could deny. The baby was due in about 2 months, We were not home study certified there was soo much to do! We were able to move fast and got through the stacks of paperwork in just one week! LDS adoption said we might have broken the record for the fastest submitted paperwork EVER! We both felt that this child was meant to be part of our family, and we were determined to bring her home.
In April of this year, we were informed that the birthfather was making plans to come to AZ to contest the adoption! We considered the emotional and legal risks and both felt that we wanted to proceed. On April 23rd Tia went into labor and was rushed to the hospital she was given an emergency c-section due to the breech presentation of the baby. Mark and myself waited outside the room until it was time to meet her. I was allowed in first and as I held her in my arms the tears fell from my eyes. She was the most beautiful little girl I have ever seen! We named her Ava Grace. We took the baby in the nursery and fed her and cuddled with her. When Mark's dad got there Tia had requested a blessing so we all went in to her recovery room to be there for the blessing. This was potentially an awkward moment for us all, as this was the first time Tia saw the baby. We were all in the room together, but the only thing anyone could feel was complete LOVE and PEACE. It was such a beautiful and special feeling.
I spent the next few days in Tia's hospital room with her. Me Ava and Tia. It was soo comfortable and special to be able to have all this time together. I felt like I needed to be a sponge and soak up as much of Tia as I could, so that I would be able to give it to Ava. Oh I forgot to mention Tia speaks fluent spanish and her english is extremely limited, but this was not a problem for us. We found ourselves communicating without any problems. It is especially interesting as I have a thick scottish accent and people usually struggle to understand me, but this was not a problem for Tia. Infact I found myself translating for her often!
When we left the hospital Mark and I took our new baby home. It was a beautiful day!
That same evening, we got a phonecall from LDS social services, telling us that the birthfather was in town! He had flown in from Puerto Rico. We were stressed and anxious that this baby girl that we loved so much, might not get to stay! The birthfather had 30 days from the time of being served notice to file a petition with the court. We were to wait this out acknowledging the fact that she might be removed from our home, leaving behind a painful hole in our hearts. It was the most intense few weeks of our lives! But on the 31st day after his notice was served, The agency checked the court and there was nothing filed! The adoption could proceed! It was the biggest relief of my life! I was literally dancing about in my living room!!!
We met with Tia where she signed away her parental rights, and we signed our adoption placement papers. We explained to our boys that Tia was agreeing to give the baby to us, and that we were promising that we will always love and care for the baby. (an adoption covenant)
The next day Tia was to fly home to Puerto rico. It was an emotional day for us all. We had gone through this intense few months together, and had felt such an emotional connection to each other. There were many tears and hugs. She flew home that night!
We are currently in the adoption process awaiting finalization. We have our courtdate set and our sealing is scheduled. This is what JOY feels like!
So here we are now, our family. Our special little family. Each of our children came into our family one by one. Each with their own amazing stories. One thing that I have learned throughout this experience is that Heavenly Father has a plan for each of his precious children. He is in charge of where they go. I am grateful that he has trusted me to be the mother of these precious spirits. I love my amazing children and am honored to be their mummy. I love our birthmothers and their courage and strength. They are both hero's to me. We will always be grateful for the amazing sacrifices they made on behalf of these children. My advice to anyone anxiously waiting to be parents is, do your part, then let the Lord do his part. It will happen in His time. Only in His time. Be ready!
It is worth the heartache, the pain, the hard work, the waiting, the disappointments. It is WORTH IT!!!!
(The names of our precious birthmothers have been changed to respect their privacy)
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
Friday, May 14, 2010
The most loved baby in the world!
I am honored to introduce to you, the newest member of our family.... "Ava Grace"
Saturday, April 17, 2010
I'm itchy too mom!
the man coat
So a couple of hours later when it was time to get ready, Kyle dressed himself, and put his special "man coat" on. I then found him inches away from the mirror spiking his hair. I couldn't believe my eyes when I found him in amongst Mark's aftershave. I asked jokingly..."kyle do you have a girlfriend you are trying to impress?" To which he replied... "No, I just really want to look good!"
Sunday, April 11, 2010
funny kids.......
Kyle excitedly comes home from school and say he is going on a field trip.
me- "oh cool, where are you going this time?'
Kyle-"we are going to the mexican zoo!"
me-"do you mean phoenix zoo?
Kyle-"ummm...Yeah!
I was getting the boys ready for church and had them all in shirts and ties for a change.
Me- "There you go, now you all look like men!"
Brody- "yeah... even you!"
....thanks Brody (as I feel my upper lip for hair)
Mark and the boys were at the park when a guy walked past smoking a cigarette
Brody told Mark (loudly) "hey look that guy's lollypop is on fire!"
priorities
I was at the park with the kids when a little boy came over to Brody and said " hey do you want to come to my house? to which Brody stuttered.... "but but but what kind of cookies do you got at your house?"
Sunday, March 21, 2010
happy birthday sweet baby!
Owen is turning a year old this week and I can not believe it has been a whole year since he was born! People always used to tell me that time speeds up when you have kids, and I always thought that was just something old people say! Well I guess I am old, because it is going way too fast! Here are some pics of him through the months and a few reasons why we love our wee man.......
He is perfect!
he is sooo cute!
He loves his swing (even still at 12 months)
He is silly
He is independant
He loves to take a bath! He even crawls into the bathroom, pulls himself up against the bath and says..."ugh ugh" as he tries to lift his leg up!
He has a natural mohawk!
He loves to sleep anytime (but night time) He has been our hardest baby to get to sleep through the night!
He is soo handsome! People stop us all the time to comment on his floppy blonde hair and big blue eyes!
He is very curious, and very smart. He loves balls and gets very excited whenever he sees one. He makes a cute little noise like a monkey "oooh oh oh oh" as he kicks his feet. he makes us all laugh.
He loves to play! He does not like to be held or snuggled, he would rather go and play with his toys and his big brothers. He thinks he is a big boy!
he lets me put silly hats on him!
He is ALWAYS happy
He loves to eat! He will eat ANYTHING except bananas!!
He loves to explore his little world!
He is fascinating to watch
He is absolutely adorable! I love you so much baby boy, we hope you have a great birthday! xxx